Shoes in the bath

Recently, Tesla has been having strange fits...where she basically loses it when we push to do something, like eat, take a bath, change diaper, or leave the house. Very much like a tantrum for sure, but it seemed that even she was surprised, and then worn out by it so much that she'd be in a daze after the fit.

I've been quite perplexed, trying to figure out what it is that ticks her off, and what we can do to help. It's not so much about communication since in the midst of a fit, her demands would be contradicting, like, "I want this!!" but then, "no, don't like that!!" Once in the middle of it, we basically had to sit by her calmly, waiting for her to get through it.

Today, I wanted to give her a bath, and was pretty careful in my approach. I realized that she's been obsessed about her shoes, so much that we've been letting her wear them in the house (big no no chez nous) and even once, I let her wear them to bed. It suddenly dawned on me that pretty much each time she had a fit, it was because she was engrossed on putting on/off her shoes "by herself" (she would announce, "I did it" when she got her shoes on), and I interrupted her with my need to get her to eat or take a bath. So...I decided to let her take a bath - which last time resulted in a 45 minute fit where both Dav and I consoled her the whole time - with her shoes.

Voila. Easy bath. Yes, her shoes were in there. All wet. And tub water no longer squeaky clean. But no fuss. And when she came out, she forgot about her shoes. And we got her to sleep in her crib vs. our bed which she has been taking a liking to.

Never imagined that I'd have my baby take a bath with shoes on...but Tesla tells us her way.