Bad aftertaste

So I went to a club Saturday night with friends. The crowd at the club, Mighty, was not the sort that I usually hang out in. Too much of a pick-up scene, and definitely not chill.

I had a good time dancing for the most part. However, my evening soured when a guy came up and asked me, "So why are you dressed like that and what kind of a statement are you trying to make?" You all know I love dressing up and that's a huge part of the fun in going out. I don't think I was extravagant, but I guess my dress made me stand out. Even so, I was minding my own business, dancing in a corner, when this person came up to me and questioned how I looked.

Maybe he was just trying to start a conversation, but I was not pleased. I spent 20 minutes conversing with him, explaining that I was dressed for myself, just for me. I was not there trying to make a statement and actually thought it was none of his business about why I dressed like I did. I was disappointed that I experienced that.

Don't know why I'm writing this. I suppose I was reminded that there will always be narrow-minded judgmental people. I guess if I had to define the statement I was making, it would be that anyone should be free to dress how they want. It's self-expression to be enjoyed, not controlled or critiqued. Can you imagine how fun it'd be if dress codes didn't exist and everyone wore whatever colorful and creative clothing everyday?

Comments

[em]

...yeah, i think i can proffer some imaginative suggestion for such liberated and uncontrolled expressiveness: shibuya!

[Thomas]

What an idiot... I have less and less patience with that type of mentality. The free wheeling burning man/goth/fetish type crowds are much more interesting to me.

[Mie]

Hey em,
About Shibuya, I sorta agree...with the youth. But I'm talking about all the business folks too. More color!! Especially during winter, I always felt overwhelmed by all the black!

Thomas, thanks. I totally agree. I can barely stand entering a shopping mall these days cuz the clothes are so boring. My dress that night was a bit fetish...a cute sorta fetish and I had my hair in buns. And again, I dressed that way for me because it was fun. That's all. When are you visiting again??

[Anne]

Here's to the celebration of diversity and colour in the world! I'm glad you took the time to try to enlighten that guy though - let's hope you broadened his mind a bit. :)